found the problem. All the work arounds i found in the lavasoft site and this forum didnt worked (e.g. the compatability settings, interactive logon, terminal service).
But when i checked my mcaffee firewall settings i found ad-aware admin application and ad-aware service application being blocked for some reason. I personally didnt do this. And im the only one using my comp.. anyways, i enabled them, tried to do an update and its now updating!
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So better check your firewall settings as well..